The perfect marriage starts as a concept until with wisdom it matures and grows into a reality. JPJ
2 Corinthians 6:14 God’s Word Translation tells us to“Stop forming inappropriate relationships with unbelievers. Can right and wrong be partners? Can light have anything in common with darkness?”
It is important for us to form lasting friendships with others that are like-minded. These friendships create stability and direction in our lives. It removes negativity and destructive criticism and judgmental behavior but instead foster encouragement, genuineness, an atmosphere of love and so many other positives that will enable us to grow into wholesome and grounded human beings.
Just as we form business partnerships with people who share our common goal(s) so should our marriages be. I can no longer visualize being married to someone who does not share my views on growing in love with each other. Moving towards unquestionable respect for each other, praying together and growing in faith together. I cannot imagine experiencing a crisis and I am exercising faith and hope to survive while my husband is panicking or has already given up. This creates an unbalanced situation as we both would be on opposite sides of the fence.
In marriage it would be wise for both partners to place God at the head of the relationship. It makes the challenges in the relationship far more bearable because both persons would be operating on a mutual premise ordained by God. The premise being the vow of commitment. This commitment would be the glue holding both persons together and giving them reason to move towards a solution. This vow “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, till death us do part; according to God’s holy ordinance would have far more significance, than just repeating it on the wedding day.
Admittedly there are persons who get married equally yoked and end up being divorced but I dare venture to say that sometimes we forget who we are up against.
I don’t know, maybe I am living in a fairy tale world but I know that I am experiencing and growing into what I consider the perfect marriage. I, likewise many others, have experienced marriage without truly acknowledging the role that God plays, it really is a marriage moving but going nowhere, a marriage that is happy but sad. I now consider marriage as a threesome consisting of me, my husband and God. That is what the perfect marriage will be when we place God at the head and look to him for guidance and direction.
Affirm: We continue to place God at the head of our marriage as we grow in wisdom daily and move towards the perfect marriage.
